Why I think Cupid can suck it. (sorry for the vulgarity mom)

It's not that I am anti-Valentines Day.I promise I'm a lover by nature. However, after spending the last 3 Valentines day without a significant other one's outlook on this oh-so-stupid and over-rated holiday kinda goes down the pooper if you catch my drift.

#1 Reason I hate Valentines Day-It's complete BS to not love each other this much every single day of your life so why the hell is there a day dedicated to it?

Modern relationships are difficult enough without having to stage a major performance on a designated day. In recent decades Valentine's Day has become so commercialized and bases soley on the material things you can receive and or buy for your significant other. The media is bombarded with images of these perfect bodies with perfect teeth giving each other chocolates, jewelry, flowers and back rubs. The message is: "Your love is measured by what you buy." Which is complete bull malarky (yea I just said bull malarky). So what it might boost the economy a tiny bit and the card and chocolate makers hit major paydirt...but what is Valentines Day really supposed to be about? Why save up all that love and romanticism for one night? Wouldn't it be more economical to spread it to every day of the year? If everyone was to show this much love and happiness towards each other, every day the world would be a brighter place right? One could only hope.

#2 Reason I hate Valentines Day-it's way to stinkin stressful and causes normal people to FREAK OUT!
This is a stressful holiday for most people... Men in particular, agonize over the greeting card racks, hoping that they can choose a card that is not too funny, not too mushy b/c they don't want to give her the wrong idea. And this brings me to the gift: "How will she interpret it?" they ponder. "If I buy her chocolates will she think I want her to get fat? If I don't buy her chocolates will she think I assume she is fat?" "Are roses too predictable?"(which the answer is yes by the way)Poor guys...Talk about STRESSFUL! I mean don't most men screw this day up anyway? Even with all the bells and whistles and reminders that keep popping up in front of them they just are not that great at remembering a holiday(or birthday, anniversaries, etc) that pretty much determines the fait of their sex life for a LONG TIME. I don't get it!!!As for the ladies (yes I am talkin to my own kind here) ya'll run around in a vain attempt to uncover the big mystery of what your boyfriends are planning which makes all of your single friends (AHEM me) think they are going certifiably insane. It's SUPER ANNOYING. Which brings me to my last reason for hating V-Day...

# 3 Reason for hating Valentines Day-All your single friends feel like POO!
Here is a hint...We do not give a crap about what your boyfriend/husband/funbuddy does for you. We give a crap about how crappy it makes us feel that we yet again, are alone on one of the most loved/loathed holidays ever created. You see, Valentine's Day is like a slap in the face for people who are not in a relationship. Because the day is SO focused around love and the subsequent partner in which one shares that love with, those without such love and without such a partner miss out on the festivities. Thus,single people like me are undoubtedly found drowning our sorrows at the nearest bar Or better yet, parked on our couches with a load of chocolate and a great bottle (or bottles in my case) of wine...watching The Notebook.(yep that one I've been there and done that...NEVER AGAIN.) Whatever the case may be it is politically incorrect to have a holiday that intentionally excludes a big ass group of people. And its just plain mean. Why not have a holiday celebrating singles? At least the bars could give really great drink specials and have all kinds of single people running amuck sipping on drinks with names like a "moping martini" or a "lonely lemon drop". Now THERE is a holiday I'd be happy to celebrate.


My sentiment, as this oh-so-ridiculous holiday approaches is this: Love the one your with. Appreciate the time you are able to spend with your significant other. Don't focus on the material things..focus on your emotional well being and your connection with this special person. Just be thankful you get to be with someone that you love and cherish for all the reasons you love and cherish them. Life is short, good relationships are hard to come by so along with the flowers, candy and chocolate, make sure you let them know you appreciate them. ***Appreciation is not shown with material things***.... Love them that much everyday...not just the 14th of February. Also, take some time to appreciate your friendships. If you are like me, you love them just as much if not more than that special boy/girl in your life. I love the hell outta my friends...they are my rock and my salvation on a daily basis. Its more than I could ever ask for.

Speaking from personal experience, I have never really had a Valentines day worth remembering in a few years, so you may call me bitter...But I believe I am honest. I would just love to be able to share my life with someone who makes me happy. Flowers or no flowers.


***SIDENOTE*** This year I will be celebrating with great friends...some who are in relationships and some who are not. I couldn't be more happy to do so!

Happy V-day to all of you lovers out there.